My Alma Mater

Last year I was approached by my alma mater to be featured in The Messenger, their beautifully prepared magazine for students, staff, faculty, and alumni of the University of Delaware. You can read it online here:
http://www.udel.edu/udmessenger/vol21no1/stories/alumni-dellasega.html

Going to graduate school was challenging with young children, but many of us are doing it! Read Andrea-Zellner’s tips for “mamacademics.”
http://www.andrea-zellner.com/archives/588

When my master’s degree was earned and the diploma hung on my wall, I found myself actually reflecting back fondly on the days when I packed my son’s belongings in a bag to take to the babysitter and then dashed off to Newark, Delaware!

Here are some fun facts about Delaware, including the confirmation that their state insect is the ladybug!
http://www.funtrivia.com/en/Geography/Delaware-3905.html

Cheryl Dellasega

Guatemala

Cultures are so varied throughout the world in so many aspects but one huge variable that changes drastically is girls’ place in society and how they function with each other. On November 11^th The Mighty Fingers Facing Change team arrived in Quetzaltenango Guatemala to get the project started. Throughout the four-day project I had the opportunity to ask them questions about friendships in their country. Based on their responses, Guatemala has many customs that seemed relatively relatable as a teenage girl from the US. They also had a few that seemed very foreign. The questions that were asked to each girl were:

1. What do you and your friends like to do for fun?

2. How do you choose who to be friends with?

3. When girls have relationship problems/friendship difficulties/drama in your  

     country, what is it most often about? 

When a fifteen-year-old girl was asked, “what do you and your friends do for fun?” she said that most everyone smokes and drinks as teenagers. Smoking and drinking is illegal under the age of 18 in Guatemala but the use of both is popular among minors.

            “I try to stay into good things, because many kids smoke and things like that.” The girl said. The “good things” she was referring to was mainly education. Children tend to have less of an opportunity to go to school in parts of Guatemala because of the high child labor rate. Many young girls are working full time as waitresses or selling goods on the streets to help support their families. Something like this makes going to school nearly impossible.

In regard to the question “how do you choose who to be friends with?” a girl

Said, “I see how they dress because I don’t like girls who dress too crazy.” As simple as a piece of clothing may seem it is used as a determining factor for friendships in many parts of the world. Generally girls who spend less time on their appearance have less friends. Even though many girls use appearance as their tool to choose friends in Guatemala there are many who also just want to be friends based on personality and similarities.

            One girl said, “I see how they act and express themselves.” When people grow up this seems to be the more common way to choose friends, so some girls are just one step ahead.

            The third question was, “When girls have relationship problems/friendship difficulties/drama in your country, what is it most often about?” Many girls agreed that the largest disagreement among Guatemalan youth girls was determining the “leader” of their group. Much of their culture is built on dominance. One person in each circle of the community must be at the top of their group.

            “When girls get in arguments it is usually because one is jealous.” A girl explained. Girls get jealous of the leader of their circle and will often try to rise above her. There is a quiet but constant battle among friends as they all try to be the best.

            Dominance, jealousy, friendships and struggle are all key factors in all communities, it’s just the way we handle these things that set us apart from each other. Studying these different cultures is incredibly interesting to me and I am excited to see more.